25
Nov

Holidays Remind Me Of Childhood

   Posted by: jude   in Mature Not Senile Misc

It’s almost Thanksgiving, but I usually start out my day by listing everything in my life that I’m grateful for anyhow, but during holidays it reminds me of family and how dysfunctional mine actually are. I tend to remember back when we were young before life became so harsh after our parents died and often wonder how things might have been had they lived. I have 2 sisters and 1 brother left, but none of the sisters talk now and the sad part is we’re old.

I get along great with my brother however and see him often. At one time I was close to the middle sister and always took up for her because we were the most alike or at least I thought we were way back then. I’m not sure what happened to cause the separation, but it’s been like that for 20 years now. I thought when my oldest brother died a few years back that we were going to cross that bridge and become united again, but it didn’t happen.

I remember a lot of the fun times I had with my sister, of us giggling together and brushing each others hair, of sneaking my daddy’s cigarettes and smoking them, climbing trees and getting into trouble with Mama. It seems like what ever happened to me happened to Glenda, but worse. She was the only person with me when my baby was born and I was with her every day when she had uterine cancer and at one point I knew I could always count on her and she me.

She’s 3 years older than I am and when she became a teenager she had a really bad case of acne. I was lucky that I escaped that problem, I had the occasional pimple. She had acne so bad that she would try one acne treatment after another and nothing seemed to help her. Her face always looked so painful and I always felt sorry for her. People or rather kids were always saying ugly things to her and called her names which always ticked me off and I was always ready to fight for her.

I always wanted a close family because when it comes right down to living in this world family are the most important people because they’re the ones that know you and love you anyhow. I was reading a post that Patricia wrote over at Communication Exchange about communicating with your family during the holidays. Now that’s a great idea at any time, but sometimes it’s just not possible.

I consider myself very lucky though because Bill has a close family that I get to be a part of. I hope everyone has a lovely holiday with their family and friends.

This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 25th, 2008 at 12:24 pm and is filed under Mature Not Senile Misc. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

 1 

My family is not what you would call close, but we’re not enemies either. we just all kind of do our own thing. Telephone and email are our best used forms of communication much to my mother’s disgust who is terribly upset over her great-granddaughter (my niece)’s handwriting which is evidently atrocious.

I remember being very protective of my brother who had Down’s Syndrome. He’s been gone a good many years now, but his memory lives on in my heart.

ê¿ê

Margaret’s last blog post..Synchronizing SEO Efforts

November 25th, 2008 at 2:48 pm
 2 

My family is not what you would call close, but we’re not enemies either. we just all kind of do our own thing. Telephone and email are our best used forms of communication much to my mother’s disgust who is terribly upset over her great-granddaughter (my niece)’s handwriting which is evidently atrocious.

I remember being very protective of my brother who had Down’s Syndrome. He’s been gone a good many years now, but his memory lives on in my heart.

ê¿ê

Margaret’s last blog post..Synchronizing SEO Efforts

November 25th, 2008 at 2:48 pm
 3 

Human relationship is one of the most complicated things in this World and yet one of the simplest. From your writings, I feel your love for your sisters, especially your middle sister. I felt your longing to be back together with them like in the old days too. There is a quotation that goes something like this, “As we grow older, we’ll find the only things we regret are the things we didn’t do.”

How true isn’t it? Maybe it is time to mend those relationships?

“Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time… It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.” – Leo Buscaglia

BK’s last blog post..Spread the Christmas Spirit and Positive Wishes

November 25th, 2008 at 8:41 pm
 4 

Human relationship is one of the most complicated things in this World and yet one of the simplest. From your writings, I feel your love for your sisters, especially your middle sister. I felt your longing to be back together with them like in the old days too. There is a quotation that goes something like this, “As we grow older, we’ll find the only things we regret are the things we didn’t do.”

How true isn’t it? Maybe it is time to mend those relationships?

“Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time… It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.” – Leo Buscaglia

BK’s last blog post..Spread the Christmas Spirit and Positive Wishes

November 25th, 2008 at 8:41 pm
 5 

I’m sorry the relationships with your family aren’t what you wish they were, but I’m glad you have your Bill. I know you really appreciate him. I am really blessed to have a very close knit family. Sometimes we drive each other crazy, but we always seem to be able to put things aside and get along. I know I am very lucky! I hope you and Bill have a really great Thanksgiving.

Carole’s last blog post..Have You Heard of CMF Direct?

November 25th, 2008 at 11:14 pm
 6 

I’m sorry the relationships with your family aren’t what you wish they were, but I’m glad you have your Bill. I know you really appreciate him. I am really blessed to have a very close knit family. Sometimes we drive each other crazy, but we always seem to be able to put things aside and get along. I know I am very lucky! I hope you and Bill have a really great Thanksgiving.

Carole’s last blog post..Have You Heard of CMF Direct?

November 25th, 2008 at 11:14 pm
 7 

Family is definitely the most important thing around! It is definitely what I am most thankful for this year and am so glad that we have a close family. I’d like our family to get even closer though, especially since my husband and I are trying to have a baby now.

Jessica McCarty’s last blog post..CVS Trip this Week

November 26th, 2008 at 1:19 am
 8 

Family is definitely the most important thing around! It is definitely what I am most thankful for this year and am so glad that we have a close family. I’d like our family to get even closer though, especially since my husband and I are trying to have a baby now.

Jessica McCarty’s last blog post..CVS Trip this Week

November 26th, 2008 at 1:19 am
 9 

Our family is not close either but I wish we were. I enjoy getting together now and then but we don’t do it very often. Gerard’s side used to more and I enjoyed it, but now that their kids are teens and they don’t have the “family birthday parties” anymore, we seldom see them. It’s too bad.

Karen, author of “My Funny Dad, Harry”’s last blog post..What Board Game Best Matches Your Personal Talents?

November 26th, 2008 at 1:10 pm
 10 

Our family is not close either but I wish we were. I enjoy getting together now and then but we don’t do it very often. Gerard’s side used to more and I enjoyed it, but now that their kids are teens and they don’t have the “family birthday parties” anymore, we seldom see them. It’s too bad.

Karen, author of “My Funny Dad, Harry”’s last blog post..What Board Game Best Matches Your Personal Talents?

November 26th, 2008 at 1:10 pm
 11 

I hope you do too! Happy Thanksgiving! Dropping by here via EC drop- come say hello sometimes :)

November 26th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
 12 

I hope you do too! Happy Thanksgiving! Dropping by here via EC drop- come say hello sometimes :)

November 26th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
 13 

It truly saddens me that families often find it difficult to simply communicate. This life of ours is so short, but most of it is lost on jealousy, disagreements and misunderstandings.

I wish you the best and may the emptiness in your heart continue to be filled with love and peace.

November 27th, 2008 at 7:30 am
 14 

It truly saddens me that families often find it difficult to simply communicate. This life of ours is so short, but most of it is lost on jealousy, disagreements and misunderstandings.

I wish you the best and may the emptiness in your heart continue to be filled with love and peace.

November 27th, 2008 at 7:30 am
 15 

I was really touched by this post. I dont have any extended family–except my grown children and thankfully we are all close–if not by miles at least by love and keeping in touch. My own mother alienated herself from her parents families and so when I grew up and started a family of my own, we were already estranged. My mom did a lot of damage to our family (mostly to me)–including the relationship I had with my brother–that can never be healed. Now no one in the wolrd wants to bother with her, and I am the only one left to care for her now that she is ill. I spend a lot of time agonizing over what could have been and what actually is. I have a lot of resentment. In conclusion I’d just like to say I think there is something seriously and fundamentally wrong with folks who can cut family out of there lives. And what’s worse, it’s easily passed onto the next generation if someone isnt wise enough to stop it. I wish you had a closer family. I know how painful it is.

Eva’s last blog post..I Elf’ed My Dog!!!

November 28th, 2008 at 8:15 am
 16 

I was really touched by this post. I dont have any extended family–except my grown children and thankfully we are all close–if not by miles at least by love and keeping in touch. My own mother alienated herself from her parents families and so when I grew up and started a family of my own, we were already estranged. My mom did a lot of damage to our family (mostly to me)–including the relationship I had with my brother–that can never be healed. Now no one in the wolrd wants to bother with her, and I am the only one left to care for her now that she is ill. I spend a lot of time agonizing over what could have been and what actually is. I have a lot of resentment. In conclusion I’d just like to say I think there is something seriously and fundamentally wrong with folks who can cut family out of there lives. And what’s worse, it’s easily passed onto the next generation if someone isnt wise enough to stop it. I wish you had a closer family. I know how painful it is.

Eva’s last blog post..I Elf’ed My Dog!!!

November 28th, 2008 at 8:15 am

Leave a reply

Name (*)
Mail (will not be published) (*)
URI
Comment

CommentLuv badge
Clicky Web Analytics