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Seniors/Being Old Doesn't Mean We Can't Date

   Posted by: jude8753   in Home and Family

I know there are a lot of baby boomers out there that all of a sudden find themselves alone and lonely and there are a couple misconceptions  that have turned into unwritten rules which are, that dating is for the younger generation only and the second is that seniors are not only too old for it but they are past it, well we’re not.

Individuals into their fifties often date, but beyond that it is frowned upon for a variety of reasons.  No one really likes to think about their parent finding someone else let alone the thought of a possible sexual relationship and they certainly can’t imagine their Grandparents or any old people with all those wrinkles and age finding another companion with sex involved.

Young people shudder at the thought, I know I did. What I shudder at now are May/December relationships.

Some of our children even though they are grown  with homes and children of their own make it very difficult for a  single surviving  parent to date. They tend to think we’ve already had our relationship and no one could replace their Mother or Father and it doesn’t seem to matter that the new friend makes that parent very happy.

Children of any age are notoriously unforgiving if their parents should move on after a death or split. Just remember it is your life to do with as you please though, just as you can’t live your child’s life for them, they can not live yours for you unless you’re of unsound mind and senile of course.

Sometimes greed plays a role even though we might not like to think that our children and grandchildren may be thinking that the new someone is trying to get their hands on what should be their rightful inheritance, if there is anything to inherit of course.

There have been many stories of con-men taking advantage of older seniors that are lonely and decide to date which has added to this perspective, but everyone should be given the benefit of the doubt until proven wrong however precautions  should always be in place.

The Internet and more liberal attitudes are starting to change societies  perspective as a whole, but there’s still a long way to go before the world of senior dating is fully accepted. If  you do decide that the time is right to move on and find someone then there are plenty of options as far as dating is concerned.

There are many senior groups that can introduce you to like minded people that you could form a relationship with. A common interest helps build a solid foundation that could lead to an enduring and healthy relationship. If you can talk to someone for hours, even if it is on just one subject, then you can translate that into a relationship.

Dating as a senior is all about finding a companion to enjoy the rest of your days with no one wants to be alone.

Many seniors that choose to date are looking for a companion to fill a void in their lives. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. It’s a personal choice that should be respected, just as we respect the rights of younger individuals that choose to date.

It should not be all about anyone but the senior in question. If he or she chooses to date, regardless of what other people think, then more power to them and good luck.

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4 comments so far

 1 

I so agree with you. If you find someone who makes you happy and you enjoy spending time with that’s all that matters.
.-= ann´s last blog ..Christmas trivia, round 2 =-.

December 18th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
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I so agree with you. If you find someone who makes you happy and you enjoy spending time with that’s all that matters.
.-= ann´s last blog ..Christmas trivia, round 2 =-.

December 18th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
jude
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Doesn’t matter the age, it’s oh how sweet those 2 old people are happy and in love, unles they are related to them, then circumstances change, then it’s , what the Hell are they thinking, those old stupid farts.

December 18th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
jude
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Doesn’t matter the age, it’s oh how sweet those 2 old people are happy and in love, unles they are related to them, then circumstances change, then it’s , what the Hell are they thinking, those old stupid farts.

December 18th, 2009 at 7:09 pm

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