There are niche dating services for everyone out there, even senior citizens. At any age it’s hard to meet someone we might be compatible with, but as we get older it seems to get even worse. A lot of our friends and partners have passed on and just because we are older it doesn’t mean that we have to give up companionship and the hope of finding someone that will make us feel happy again.

I’ve seen the children of an older person that is alone, more or less try to keep that surviving parent separated from someone that could possibly make their parent happy. Whether it was because they couldn’t stand the thought of someone possibly taking the place of their Mother or Father or that someone else might share their possible inheritance I haven’t a clue.

Whatever the reasoning behind this I have to conclude that it must be motivated by selfishness. Why wouldn’t you want to see your surviving parent happy and not alone? Can’t say how I might have reacted as an adult if  that had happened to me because both my parents died when I was 7 years old within 6 months of each other, but I’m sure I would want to see them happy and it wouldn’t have been my place to sabotage any type of relationship.

I was 49 when Bill and I started going out and he was 55 and since cohabitating with  Bill I have been happier than any other time in my life. We have been engaged for those 5 years, but I don’t think we will get married and I have to say that his children were very happy that he found someone to share the rest of his life with. I know that I could never find anyone like him so I wouldn’t even look.

I started this post about the senior dating services that have gained momentum online and got a little sidetracked. These senior dating services follow the same procedures as any other and most times if you’ve been alone for a long time this can be a perfect way to find a companion. You can opt for the group or club date because it can be pretty awkward to go on an individual date when you’ve been out of circulation for a long time.

Many dating services around here have get together’s for their members and it makes for a more relaxed way of meeting a potential companion without putting pressure on anyone. These services also will make sure that your profile matches up with a potential date or companion so make sure that you fill out the application carefully so they will be able to find someone in their data base.

I met a couple people through a local dating service that I found online some years ago, but I should have gotten to know them better through chat and talking on the phone and e-mails, because you can usually tell more about a person when they aren’t face to face, they feel more comfortable and their guard isn’t up so high.

You might be able to make a better connection by getting to know them first. At the very least after speaking with them on the phone and chatting you may save yourself the bother of a one on one in person if you find that their interests aren’t really to your liking. Remember that people aren’t always truthful when they fill out those applications.

So make sure you gather as much information as possible and make sure that there would be no problems that might complicate things for you in the end. If it’s a free online site you’re dealing with make sure you don’t give any credit card information because there are a lot of fraudulent sites out there.

You never know where you might find that special person you can share with and you might make a few friends that you simply enjoy talking to. I was lucky I found Bill right in my back yard, actually he ate at the restaurant I worked at for years, but for whatever reasons the timing was never right so it just goes to show regardless of how you meet someone that anything is possible.

I have been entering to win a totally green home in South Carolina, but if that doesn’t happen there is a $20,000 dollar promotional contest from Renuzit TriScents that is going on right now to win a makeover for your home. The promotion is called “Renuzit TriScents Tranform Your Home with Tanya Memme.” Most people I know love to enter contest and sweepstakes because they feel like they might be lucky someday, It’s fun.

If I were ever lucky enough to win the Transform Your Home makeover I would have to start in the bedroom and I would like the wall in between knocked out and reconfigured so my bedroom would have more space using the small room that it connects with. I always feel like I’m smothering in there because it’s so close.

I would probably keep my existing furniture, but  I would like a window seat alcove where the exsisting windows are and different lighting for a more relaxed cosy place where I would like to hang out. It would be nice if the attic above could be knocked out and a sky light added, but then I would need storage space. I know it would be more attractive to a buyer if we ever sell.

One photo is from inside showing the wall and the other shows the wall that connects from the other side.

We have our 2 canine citizens and while Shadow doesn’t have a lot of  body odors Sadie does even though I use animal perfume that penetrates the skin, I still have to use room freshner and Renuzit has a couple of new scents that you can download a coupon for called Seaside Breezes™ and Morning Meadow. I would like a space for Shadow because he sleeps by the side of the bed, but I would like it hidden somehow.

It’s easy to enter and if your good with videos, that would be even better than a picture, people get to vote on their favorite and a winner will be chosen. Be sure to follow the official rules and also make sure your submission will be elligible by following the three points below. (1) upload video or a photo and essay (2) Explain and demonstrate why your home needs a makeover (3) Explain how Renuzit TriScents can help you.

I have to introduce you to my best friends first off is my Sadie, she’s a pit-lab mix and Bill adopted her a year before we got together from the SPCA. She’s a friendly girl since I broke her from attaching her teeth to your hand and not letting go and she follows me every where. When Bill and I got together it was like we switched dogs or rather they did the switching.

The old guy below is my Shadow and he’s a full bred American Eskimo and he’ll be 11 years old in August. I’ve had him since he was 7 weeks old and it was love at first sight for me, not so much for him because he attaches himself to men, but he respects me and we get along fine, but he follows Bill every where.

Bill put my new desk together and it is so huge, but  I haven’t disconnected my wires and equipment yet because I dread putting it all back together. That will be my project for tomorrow. It will give me lots of needed space to work instead of being so cramped. I took a picture of my cramped space and when it’s finished I’ll take the after shot, depending on how dramatic it looks I may post them, I love before and afters.

Now I will have to redesign my whole office and we already took the exercise equipment out, but unfortunately Sadie sleeps in here so I have to keep her space because she feels safe sleeping under the small table near my desk, I will have to move it down though. I need to make this room conducive for working or maybe I shouldn’t because I spend way to much time on the computer.

It really tickles me no end that my son is finally going to be a Father and be able to watch and guide a little guy that I hope will be just like him and for sure it will serve him right. Maybe then he can understand what it’s truly like to be a parent and finally understand that you don’t say no just because your a mean Mommy that never wants her kids to have any fun. You say no because you are trying to keep them safe.

If your around my age then I’m sure you probably will remember what it was like to raise teenagers.  It’s like they suddenly change into someone else and go into some weird 4th dimension at age 13 and stay there until they have kids of their own and then you may start seeing them turn back into someone you know. I know it’s not easy being young, but I honestly don’t remember being so sullen and hateful to my elders as I see young people being now.

I have Grandchildren from Bill’s kids and I truly love them just as much as I will one with my blood. Of course my son is the type that thinks he has all the answers and his children will be unlike he was so I’ll just wait and watch and no I wont really be wishing them to be bad just so he can see what I had to deal with when he was young. But from children I have watched grow up over the years they all seem to go into that weird phase.

Actually teenagers really aren’t uncommunicative and they really are looking for someone to talk with about the changes that are going on in their young lives. Those teen years are so full of change that it’s like an explosion and is unparalleled with anything in this life. They really need an adult to talk to and it’s usually not the parents they turn to at that age because we the parents are considered ignorant for some reason.

So if we the parent can’t be that person they can turn to as a teenager then they do need to find an adult they can talk to, that would help them in getting through those tough teen years. A lot of times Grandma or Grandpa can become that willing ear and someone who a teenager can talk to about all those changes that are eating them up inside. I have seen that the Grandparents are considered as great and wise and someone they can talk to, I love it.

I know as Grandparents Bill and I will be more than happy to keep communication lines open as I’m sure all you other Grandparents will be doing and I really hope most will have the understanding, common sense and wisdom like Bill does. I have never meet anyone like Bill in my whole entire life and he did a really great job with his kids. I wish I could say the same, my son blamed me for his birth and everything bad that ever happened in his life up until a couple years ago (he’s 38).

Bill is one of the few parents I have ever met that actually didn’t have problems with his kids. He was either very lucky and blessed or he just had great parenting skills. Kids today are use to communicating through email, instant messaging and texting. I remember how thrilled I use to be to see a card or letter in the mail from someone I love, but the kids today don’t realize what a thrill that is.

I’m sure I should make time to start sending them snail mail just to make sure they know we are always around and love them and I know that would be a novelty to actually receive something in the mail of their own, but also since I’m online and when they start using the Internet we can always IM and keep the communication open that way.

They are still babies yet so we have a way to go before all those scary changes start occurring, but we need to start early so they will know we are here and we will listen. I’m sure Nate already understands that at 5 and we have noticed already that he is nicer at our house than at his own and always nicer when his parents aren’t around. He will soon have a baby sister (he wanted a brother) so it will be interesting to watch the changes in attitude and communication.