All of the backlinks that showed up in my wordpress blog disappeared for some reason. Has this happened to anyone else? Even the authority on Technorati has decreased and the blog reactions have dropped to 139. I know Google seldom ever report the real total of backlinks, but this is just weird. I’m not the greatest at SEO, but I do try sometimes to get it right. I’ve been getting a lot of search engine traffic so I really don’t understand the missing backlinks.

Parentgiving is a great site for anyone that is taking care of an aging parent you’ll find a lot of useful information that furnishes caregiver resources and news. They even have care managers that you can call if you are having any problems that you can’t handle and consult with them, these are registered nurses and social workers. It’s not easy being a caregiver especially when you are already stressed with taking care of your own family and then when something happens to an aging parent you’re faced with some hard decisions that you may need help with.

It’s hard to think that we’ll ever get old when we are young, but it does gradually start sinking in and we face each passing year with a growing dread over certain phases that we know we will go through eventually. That’s why so many are eating healthier and making better choices because we’re living much longer now. I sometimes think about losing my memories and the devastating effect that would have on family members and what it would be like to forget everybody and everything.

I’m thinking we might have to move eventually because of our stairs, sometimes it’s hard getting up and down them and the bathroom of course is on the second floor. I know I’ve started using my bathroom handrails more often now also. We already have the higher toilet and it’s so weird when we visit family and they have those standard sized ones that look like they’re for a child. My brother loved mine so much that he had to get himself one. Believe me it’s so much easier on your back and I love mine. I know we’ll have to add more safety features the older we get.

We babysat the little 10 month old tonight and I thought how helpless this little baby was while I was changing her diaper and started thinking about how we come in the world helpless and many of us go out the same way. I know as I grow older there are many things that I dread and one of those for me will be if I ever get to the point that I would have to wear adult diapers don’t get me wrong they are a godsend for many adults that suffer from incontinence, but it’s just not something I’m looking forward to. At any rate be sure to check out the caregiver learning center.

Mastery of Self by Frank Channing Haddock, I thought this chapter titled “Fear And Reason” was worth posting I know it’s long, but I’m sure someone out there may be searching for these exact words to help them. I’m quite sure this has probably been updated over the years and put into other words, but I find it more interesting to read these because of the way it’s  worded and it is in the public domain so anyone can use it, I’ve been reading a lot of older books lately.

Fear And Reason

“In civilized life it has at last become possible for large numbers of people to pass from the cradle to the grave without ever having had a pang of genuine fear. Many of us need an attack of mental disease to teach us the meaning of the word.” William James.

We have all heard the seemingly discriminating remarks that fear is normal and abnormal, and that normal fear is to be regarded as a friend, while abnormal fear should be destroyed as an enemy.

The fact is that no so called normal fear can be named which has not been clearly absent in some people who have had every cause therefor. If you will run over human history in your mind, or look about yea in the present life, you will find here and there persons who, in situations or before objects which ought, as any fearful soul will insist, to inspire the feeling of at least normal self-protecting fear, are nevertheless wholly without the feeling. They possess every feeling and thought demanded except fear. The idea of self-preservation is as strongly present as with the most abjectly timid or terrified, but fear they do not know.

This fearless awareness of fear suggesting conditions may be due to several causes. It may result from constitutional make-up, or from long continued training or habituation, or from religious ecstasy, or from a perfectly calm sense of spiritual selfhood which is unhurtable, or from the action of very exalted reason. Whatever the explanation, the fact remains: the very causes which excite fear in most of us, merely appeal, with such people, if at all. to the instinct of self-preservation and to reason, the thought-element of the soul which makes for personal peace and wholeness.

Banish all fear.

It is on such considerations that I have come to hold that all real fear-feeling should and may be banished from our life, and that what we call “normal fear” should be substituted in our language by “instinct” or by “reason,” the element of fear being dropped altogether.

“Everyone can testify that the psychical state called fear consists of mental representations of certain painful results” (James). The mental representations may be very faint as such, but the idea of hurt to self is surely present. If, then, it can be profoundly believed that the real self cannot be hurt; if the reason can be brought to consider vividly and believingly all quieting considerations; if the self can be held consciously in the assurance that the White Life surrounds the true self, and is surely within that self, and will suffer “no evil to come nigh,” while all the instincts of self preservation may be perfectly active, fear itself must be removed “as far as the east is from the west.”

These are the ways, then, in which any occasion for fear may be divided:

Saturday was a no computer day and today will be a short one. Bill’s Sister and B-I-L were in from Ohio so he wanted to spend as much time as possible with them so Saturday was a very busy day and night and we also had to fit Nate’s 7th birthday party in, which he really didn’t care if we were there or not so long as he got presents because he had lots of kids to play with. They grow up so fast so it’s best to enjoy them as much as possible.

We did a lot of riding yesterday and stopped and bought some Pig Snot isn’t that a yucky name for a product? I thought Bill was yanking my chain when he told me about a wax that was recommended by his B-I-Law, but it’s for real and I actually took a picture of the stuff to show you  I’m not fibbing. We’ll see if it makes the bike shine better than Mother’s wax, but with that name I’m not holding out much hope. We also bought a chrome fixture to add to the tour pack.

Bill has decided he wants to add a pair of biker ballz to his trike, they hang down from the rear end. I’ve seen them on a couple bikes and even some trucks and they always crack me up. I guess it’s a man thing, but they sure are weird looking, but since it’s his bike he can add what he pleases doesn’t bother me in the least. The street rods were in town this weekend and he thought they might have them there, but it’s kind of silly to pay 14 dollars to get in to buy a pair for 12 bucks.

Well I gotta go Bill’s back from the grocery store and we’re going to ride since it’s so nice. I hope the photo above didn’t offend you guys, I mean ladies of course. It’s going to rain all week so get out and enjoy this beautiful Sunday, have a great one and I’ll be back tomorrow. For my Entrecard friends I’ll try and visit tonight, but if not I’ll catch you Monday. I’ll probably start taking the weekends off from this computer since it’s starting to finally get nice.

I love my new wide screen monitor, now I can see all the pretty backgrounds I’ve been missing plus I don’t have to do any scrolling across the page to see the whole website. That always annoyed me before because the larger resolutions always caused me to do that, now the problem is fixed.

I was also having a problem with my mouse. I use the Logitech stationary with the marble ball, I hate those wheels because I hate moving my mouse all over the place. At first I thought I might have a virus because it was acting so weird, it was getting to the point I couldn’t even copy and paste.

When I would hold the ctrl down and open blogs at least 2 sometimes 3 of the same page would open up at the same time and make my pc hang up. I was getting so frustrated, I did many scans for malware and tried everything I could find to do when I ran across anyone mentioning that their mouse didn’t work right.

Finally yesterday I decided to try a new mouse, but I wanted the kind I already had because I’m so use to that type and it’s much easier to use. I looked all over the place before I finally found one at Office Max, they didn’t even have it on display. If I hadn’t decided to scan all the shelves I would have missed it.

I felt like I had died and gone to Heaven and couldn’t wait to get it home and see if that solved my problem. It works beautifully now and I got rid of all my don’t know what the heck to do about my mouse frustration. I have no doubt that something else will pop up to tick me off in the future, but for now I’m happy.

Have A Great Weekend.

It’s hard to get started with anything today for some reason. I know there are a lot of bloggers out there with older pets and I was wondering if anyone had ever tried Dr. Frank’s Pet Pain Spray? I saw the commercial on television and have been trying to read reviews and everything I can find online before I consider getting it for Shadow. So I’m hoping someone that stops by has actually tried it.

If anyone has tried this homeopathic remedy I would certainly appreciate your input. I would love to see my Shadow at least be able to get up and move a little bit and I’m certainly getting weary of him crying, but usually that’s his way of letting me know he’s thirsty, hungry, needs to be turned, is lonely or has just wet himself. For the most part he seems okay and I can’t bear the thought of letting him go yet.

I did get a huge bottle of animal glucosamine from the vet and used that for awhile, but all that did was make his urine stink and turn his fur brownish red. I feel so sorry for this little guy and even though he can’t get up and move he still raises the upper part of his torso up to get his treats and he’s still very alert and smart. I can count the number of times I’ve actually slept in my bed through the night since December using both hands.

Sleeping in a chair for so long is making me feel like I’m a hundred and it’s just too hard to get him up and down the stairs every night. Bill and I both have our problems so it’s easier for me to sleep in the chair next to him to keep him quiet and keep the neighbors from complaining. So please anyone that has ever tried this homeopathic pet pain spray please let me know how it worked for your pet or pets or even if you’ve tried Dr. Frank’s human pain spray I could even judge from that.

Thanks for reading and any input you can supply will be much appreciated. We go for Bill’s eye surgery in the morning and I’ll let you know how it goes.